The Final Analysis

An inspiring speech by mother Theresa

"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies; succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they might be jealous, be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; give the world the best youv'e got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway."

Love that speech :D

1. 1. A single human considered apart from a society or community: the rights of the individual.
   2. A human regarded as a unique personality: always treated her clients as individuals.
   3. A person distinguished from others by a special quality.
   4. Usage Problem. A person.

"The new Nokia 600 is simply a must have! It has GPRS, 3G, bluetooth, quad band. It has 50 gb built in memory and can do anything your PC can do! Buy it now!"
Advertisements are everywhere in the 21st century. There is no way to escape them. In order for an advertisement to be successful, it has to promote something well enough for people to buy it.
Next day in school I see my friend has a Nokia 600.
"This phone is so cool, you just HAVE to buy one!"
And so I do. After all it is the "in" thing to do.
Next I have to buy the latest clothes, the newest refrigerator, the coolest car and ofcourse the biggest house. Society today compels people to do things, not because they actually want to do it, nay, because thats the way it is done. The society decides that these are the cool clothes, and so everyone who does not wear it is not cool. If everyone in your school shaved their heads(cough*Britney*cough) and they tell you to do it too, you will most likely bend under the pressure IN THE END.

The thing is that there isnt a lot of people who can withstand the power of society. We want to be accepted and therefore dare not go against what is accepted to be good. It happens everywhere, everyday. Children bend to peer pressure in order to keep friends that they don't even really want. They smoke because their friends smoke, drink because they do and ditch school because they do. Basically we all want to go with the flow. We don't want to stand up and say that we wont go along with this because its stupid, no, we would rather just "go with the flow".

In the end, this idea of going with the flow robs us of our individualism. We are no longer a unique person, but simply one more person doing what's "in". Society is controlling us by choosing where we live, what we eat and what be believe.

Be an individual, go against the flow. Stand up for what you believe in and do what YOU want to do. Don't let society control YOU.

Get a backbone and go against the flow! :p

Integrity:

1. Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
2. The state of being unimpaired; soundness.
3. The quality or condition of being whole or undivided; completeness.

Integrity is the character quality which I most respect in the world. It takes a lot of guts and a strong sense of self, as well as the will to stand up for what you believe in to be a person of integrity. Integrity is being COMPLETELY honest. If you know something and decide to keep it from another person, then you are not being honest. Honesty is not just telling the truth when asked a direct question, its telling the whole truth, even if not asked if its relevant to that person.

In the modern world VERY little people actually posses this character quality in the least bit. And sadly, I can understand that. Even I am not always 100% honest, even though id like to be. Telling a small lie is sometimes just so easy that you do it without even thinking twice. People who have true integrity would not do this. People with integrity would also not be victims of peer pressure, as they stand for what they believe in, and they also have a strong sense of moral correctness. This is perhaps the best part of people with integrity, their morals. They have a very strong sense of moral and ethical correctness which is in my eyes amazing.

This quote explains some parts of integrity better than I could.

"Many people appear to use the word "integrity" in a vague manner as an alternative to the perceived political incorrectness of using blatantly moralistic terms such as "good" or ethical. In this sense the term often refers to a refusal to engage in lying, blaming or other behavior generally seeming to evade accountability. Integrity is holding true to one's values. Said another way: being one's word; doing what you said you would do (by when)/(how) you said you would do it. Integrity is knowing what is important to you and living your actions accordingly. It may take the form of a sense of etiquette that runs very deep, as in religious or political virtues. In a way, integrity is how you allow others to see you. Holding individual evaluation as paramount, Friedrich Nietzsche considered personal integrity a noble quality."

A noble quality indeed.

To all the people out there who still have integrity, I admire and respect you! If everyone had integrity the problems of the world would be MUCH less. Keep on being honest and doing what is RIGHT.

1. 1. The supposed force, principle, or power that predetermines events.
   2. The inevitable events predestined by this force.

Do YOU believe in fate?

I for one do not. I had a debate about this with a friend who blindly believes in fate. She believes that there is a predetermined path set for her by God, and that nothing can change that.
Now her arguments were basically based on the following:

Her sister is diabetic. Before they knew this she was sick in hospital and was thirsty. She asked my friend to go buy her something to drink and my friend did. She couldn't decide what to buy, so she decided to pick this one bottle of water for some reason. She gave it to her sister who drank it. The doctor then showed up and was panicked because he saw she had had something to drink, he took the bottle and relaxed when he saw that it was sugar free. She believes that it was her fate to pick that bottle.

Now in this example she uses the past to explain fate, which is essentially a set future, so that wont really work. I told her that maybe God told suggested that she take that bottle, and she chose to listen, but she didn't HAVE to pick that bottle. Basically she believes that God MAKES you do things, while I believe that God gives us free will and the ABILITY to do things.

She continues to inform me that if someone were to be able to see into the future that you were to die in a car crash tomorrow, then you can't avoid that death. She believes that you will die even of you stay home, just by some other manner. Now I cant prove to her that it is not like this, no one has predicted my death, but even if you were to die of some other accident, that would still be going against your fate (i.e. dying in car crash) and thus proving that it does not exist.

Lol, maybe it was fate that made you read this, and thus its my fate to try and convince people that fate does not exist

Either way, it can not be proven to exist or not, but I choose not to believe in it (unless of course its my fate not to believe in it)

No one can make us do anything, we have free will and can make our own decisions and we control our own destiny.

Everyone has boundaries. Some fiercely protect all their many boundaries while others don't really mind when people step over the line. Some people are only serious about some of their boundaries and will relax about their others, but in the end everyone gets angry or irritated when someone oversteps their boundaries too much.

Our boundaries are our personal spaces, our personal feelings about what we like people to do, how we like people to act, how we like people to respond and so forth. This is one of the reasons why many people find a relationship such a scary concept. The thing is that in a relationship you have to let your guard down some. You have to let your partner overstep some of your boundaries without getting nervous or angry about it. You have to even let some of your boundaries down and forget about them completely.

Of course you will still have SOME boundaries in place, which will most likely be overstepped by your partner at one time or another, which is why forgiveness is so important in all relationships, including friendships. It is said that there is magic in forgiveness. In the forgiveness you grant and more so in the forgiveness you receive. Once you really do forgive someone, or once someone really does forgive you, you will see the truth in this.

All of this sidetracked me from my original idea however. The thing about having boundaries is that all people have different ones, and of course they are all invisible. You need to show your friends your boundaries, in a nice way of course, but the thing is that if you do not show them where and what your boundaries are, they will overstep it, because they don't see the line you have drawn and thus they are unaware of the fact that they are stepping over it. If you aren't open and honest about your limits and boundaries then people will ignore them out of ignorance, which will cause you to get angry at them and snap at them.

So please, try to let your friends and loved ones know what your boundaries are before they overstep them, you don't need to be rude about it, but let them know and it will avoid a lot of conflict in all of your relationships.

I have a message to pass along to you my old friends: Loneliness, sadness, despair, misery, inadequacy, regret and dependency.

Misery, you are quite new in my life, but i have come to know you well in these last days. I regret having to inform you that even though we all know you love company, I must leave you now to find new friends, but don't despair, in my stead I leave you with new friends who I am sure you will get along great with.

Loneliness, we have been friends for quite a long time, but I refuse to give you recognition any longer! You shall be lonely from now on, I wouldn't even wish your vile company on misery... Go, leave me now and go be lonely somewhere else. Make new friends, do what you wish, but I shall ignore you from now on. No longer will you have power in my life.

Sadness, you seem to know me so well now, better than I know myself, and lately you have spread and made friends with my other friends. Unfortunately that was a wrong move to make as I am quite fond of my other friends, and therefore I will disperse of you now. Go befriend misery and keep him company for good.

Despair, I'm afraid that I have found a new friend who just can't live with you, he takes away all the power you have over me and leaves you alone, small and powerless, his name is Hope. I know this might be rude, but I have to be honest and say that I don't think I will miss you much, you can join misery and make him feel less alone.

To inadequacy I don't have much to say. All you ever did was whisper in my ear to discourage me and make me afraid of things. Well your time is gone, my ears are deaf to your words, you are ironically enough, inadequate. Leave me for I do not want to be in the company of such pathetic things.

Regret, you have always come into my life at the most interesting times, always when I was most vulnerable, but I have found a shield against you, it can not be penetrated so please, don't waste your time on me, misery would love to get to know you too I think, he has some new friends that you can join...

And lastly dependency, well, you have come into my life recently, I have gone most of my life without you, and now again it is time for me to go on without you. I know you are dependent on me but I can not help you now. Go to misery and his friends, they will support you, for I have grown to be independent of you and therefore I have no use for you in my life.

Goodbye my old friends, I will probably see you again sometime, but for now I want to go out into the world and make new friends. Ciao.